‘My 17-year-old son was arrested for sharing child abuse images – he said it was a relief’

A mother describes how her autistic son became one of thousands of under-18s caught viewing or sharing indecent images of children.

Louise* thought she had been open and clear with her two children about the dangers of the internet. But last year there was a knock on her door at 6am. It was the police looking for her 17-year-old son.

It was on these well-known sites and chat apps that adults were waiting to groom young people like him.

“He had so many messages,” says Louise. “I mean literally thousands of messages from people trying to groom him. This is a boy who has spent years trying to conform as an autistic child in school, to try to fit in socially. Who has been bullied. And he suddenly felt included. He felt a buzz.

“Adults asked him to share images of abuse for them. If he hadn’t been caught who knows where it would have ended up.”

Louise asked Alex why he didn’t show an adult the images he was sent.

“I even said to him, ‘Why didn’t you just tell me when you opened the images?’ And he said, ‘Mum, do you know hard it is to do that? To explain the months of being online in these spaces.’ His actual words when the police came were, ‘Oh, thank God.’ It was a relief to him.”

She says lockdown shifted the balance for young people such as her son, moving life online. “They were told, ‘Just go online, do everything on there.’”

Alex and his mother are receiving help from the Lucy Faithfull Foundation, a charity offering support to online sex offenders. Last year, 217,889 people contacted its help services, concerned about their own or someone else’s sexual thoughts or behaviour.

The organisation recently set up a website called Shore, aimed at younger people who are worried about their own sexual thoughts and behaviour. Calls to its helpline from under-18s went up by 32% when the country came out of lockdown.

Alex also spoke about the dangerous place he found himself in. “I was in my final year of sixth form and I was anxious and afraid about friendships ending because I was staying at home and friends were leaving for university.

“This is where I made a fateful decision to try to create friendships using multiple chat platforms. There was no intent of any sexual engagement but a combination of natural sexual interest, fear of falling behind my friends in experience and the strong effects of anonymity made it very easy to engage in these matters.”

He warns that his generation are using the online world in a way that needs new thinking to protect children better.

“This isn’t an issue that can be fixed by telling people not to talk to strangers on the internet. This is outdated information,” he says.

“Many people believe this content is only found on the dark web when it can actually be found in the most shallow parts of the internet with no effort. It is very scary to realise this and it would have deterred me but unfortunately I was in too deep and it was too late for me.”

* Names have been changed